And, in December 2005 I realized that I wanted to go out on a date with this man. He told me he would do everything he could to make this work because he wanted us to be together. Also, we are both Catholic and he asked me to get an annulment, so I did because I wanted to get closure on my previous marriage and so that we (this man and I) could be together. I guess I should mention that I also have two children ages 17 and 11.

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He has told me that he’s really struggling with this because he made a promise to them that if they didn’t think it was right, then he wouldn’t do it.

But, he also tells me that he loves me and my kids very much and that his kids love us, too, but don’t want to be with us on a permanent basis.

As far as I know, they haven’t given him a reason as to why.

I feel that although their feelings should definitely be taken into consideration about our relationship, he is the adult and it is ultimately up to him what he wants.

He has told me he wants to be with me, and I believe him. There is this woman who lost her husband a little over a year ago and has been corresponding with him (she asked my permission and I said it was ok.) He has taken his kids to see this woman and have supper with her a few times and has told me every time that they were going over there.

Well, he told me recently that his kids like her because she reminds them of their mom.

I have a really hard time with this, too, simply because he shouldn’t have taken them with him in the first place.

Like I said, this man and I reconnected in May 2005 when I invited him and his kids to my college graduation.

They couldn’t come because they were getting ready to move.

He told me they were moving because of too many memories and that it was time to move on.

Well, after he got moved into his new house, we started corresponding over email and chatting online. We fell in love and wanted to take things slowly for his kids’ sakes.