n the last week, my post Why Courtship Is Fundamentally Flawed received over half a million readers and over 100,000 comments, likes, and shares on Facebook.It has sparked a robust discussion in the comments section with over 1000 lengthy responses.So, I would like to respond to some of the most frequent questions and concerns.

If they are both adults, this permission step is often skipped although advise is still sought.

Then finally the guy gets permission/blessing from the girl’s father before they transition from going steady to engagement. So a 34 year old man would still ask permission/blessing before popping the question to a 34 year old woman.

During the engagement phase, the couple is still getting parental guidance.

If you have not yet done so, I recommend you read Why Courtship Is Flawed first. Want to a better case for why courtship is fundamentally flawed?

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I am trying to show that parental control over adult children can do more harm than good.

The kind of parent who feels “no control” is “no involvement” may have control issues.

If the comments are any gauge, most young people long for relationship advice from their parents. They meet the dates and give their son or daughter advice on what they like and don’t like about each one.

This way they help their children learn to make their own good decisions.

Then both young people (if they are still minors) get permission from their own parents before they start “going steady.” During the going steady phase the parents are giving advice and encouragement.